Friday, January 8, 2010

High Expectations?

Hello everyone. First, I want to apologize for not posting yesterday. The last few days have been the hardest for me in about 5 months. I am extremely nervous about the doctor calling me with my test results & that is just the beginning. It seems as though 20 things (I don't think that I am exaggerating) that we negative surrounded me the other day. The same day that I spoke about the devil. Coincidence? It was just one thing after another & the pile ended up burying me. I became so weak & I am still trying to rebuild my strength. We also found out yesterday that this month was another unsuccessful baby making month. (going into our 5th month now) Of course, this upsets me by itself, but my paranoid mind wonders if I am not getting pregnant because something is "wrong" with me. Which takes me back to the test results. UGH! That phone call will either greatly relax me, or start another new journey that I am not ready to travel down. Please pray for me.

Since I have been such a crazy lady this week & because my husband's schedule has been from 6am-8pm, I am REALLY looking forward to the weekend with him. I feel like I haven't seen him at all. I miss him. Last night I asked him to hug me & I just started crying. I told you, I am a basket case. LOL "Thank you baby for putting up with me this week. I know that I have been a nightmare & I am sure it wasn't easy biting your tongue when I kept on complaining. I think I drove myself nuts too!" We don't have any plans set in stone but I am up for anything. I am looking forward to church on Sunday morning too. I need something powerful to whip me back into shape. Especially with the New Thru 30 Challenge starting on Monday. Are you ready ladies? As you can see, I love these cartoons. Let's let this one be our inspiration for our new start.

On a ridiculous funny note. I was VERY shocked to see that the school system here called a 2 hour delay yesterday at 3pm for today. Due to POTENTIAL inclement weather. Are you kidding me? I checked the weather channel & I did not see any reason for this delay. It is 42 degrees here & feels warmer if you ask me. The ground is dry, no ice or anything. If they keep up this pace, my kids will be going to school through the summer to make up for days that they call off. This delay allowed all of us to sleep in a little later which was fine by me, I just didn't see the point at all. 

Most couples marry with high expectations for their marriage. They know that many marriages have gone on the rocks, & many of those that didn't are not really happy marriages. But they think that THEIR marriage will be different because they LOVE each other.  It is not before long that the expectation is replaced with frustration. The marriage which they were sure was made in Heaven comes crashing to earth, the stars in their eyes become sand, & the delight becomes disillusionment. We asked ourselves this question before, what happened?

Well, both spouses did not learn to conduct their personal lives or their marriage according to God's Word. God has provided specific information & direction concerning the purpose of marriage & the varying but complementary responsibilities of the two people who form the marriage. God gave certain responsibilities to the wife & to the husband. When both parties know, accept, & fulfill their responsibilities, oneness in the marriage is promoted. Conversely, when the husband & wife either do not understand or will not fulfill their God-given responsibilities, great confusion & frustration will result. 

There are many passages in the Bible that speak of the wife's part in the marriage. For homework, read these passages & see if you can begin figuring out what you are & are not doing that God is commanding you to do. We will get into much detail on Monday & we will begin to answer some of your questions & concerns through the Word. If you have a specific question while you read this over the weekend, post a comment so that I can be certain to cover it. If you have a question, I am sure that others have that same question.  

Day Twenty Five - 

" peace, & pursue it." Psalms 34:14b
"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." Isaiah 26:3

Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with your encouragement challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, & determine to speak words of peace to your family today.

Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books, or people into your home that build a sense of serenity? Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, & support his choices. 

If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be patient & loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible. 

Day Twenty Five Prayer - 

Pray that your husband will serve God & others with pure motives. Pray that he will obey the Lord from his heart, & glorify Him in everything. 1 Corinthians 10:13; John 7:17-18; Colossians 3:23-24

Aimee Freeman


Beth said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers while you await your test results and while you wait for some positive baby news! I am sorry you have had a hard week. You are always such a positive light in my life, and I hope my prayers can give you some peace of mind. It is in the teens to twenty degrees here, and we have had our first big snow! So 42 degrees sounds lovely to me! Hope things get better for you soon! Have a great weekend!

Beth said...

I really enjoyed the scripture to study. I can definitely see my problem areas, respecet, self-control, reverence, and having a quiet and gentle spirit. I love to watch the Love Comes Softly Series, by Janette Oak, and I think these women truly exemplify all these characteristics. When I watch these movies I often think to myself, why can't I be more like that, especially when it comes to having a quiet, gentle and respectful spirit. I do think our culture has had a major impact on all of us as women. It is hard to work a full time job, be a full time mommy and wife, and be able to be all the Lord has commanded us to be. I am trying to work very hard on all of the above. I want my husband and children to look up to me and praise me, but most importantly I want them to be won over to the Lord by the respect I show.
Thanks again Aimee!

Sara said...

Just found your blog a few days ago! It is wonderful. Will be praying for you and your journey to conceive. I remember that road all too well. The tests, the appointments, the hoping, the devastation with each negative. Hang in there! (sorry, not trying to be cliche). Anyway, thank you for your insightful posts and I will be checking in often!!

The Bilslands said...

I will be praying for you!

I am a lot more likely to get angry then my husband, but then I don't really know how to communicate what has upset me... I usually just blow it off and then it becomes a bigger issue later on. We both need to learn how to communicate in a peaceful, calm way... We are working on it! =)


Autumn said...

My prayers are with you! :)

thorney said...

Aimee, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Praying for a calm to embrace you--God is with you.

We're not getting winter here this year and it seems you all have gotten out winter weather this year. Odd. It is raining pretty hard today and tonight, but no snow. The mountains are full which is good for ski season.

You are in my prayer, and I am looking forward to Mondays bginning Bible time.

Carrie said...

I will be praying about your test results - and those months of trying, are SO difficult - I'm so sorry. We tried about 15 months with our first, and then only 4 months with our 2nd - I hope it will happen soon for you, I know each month is so hard.

Thank you for sharing honestly your thoughts (and sharing Biblically) on marriage.

Heather said...

I am praying for you as you are going through this season of your life of trying to conceive.

I am going to go and read the verses you posted up! I am glad I am following your blog because it is a great encouragement to me; I have not been such a great wife lately. I have been giving my husband a hard time about where we will be living in about 5 years and I feel bad for the way I have been treating him.
Looking forward to the next post.


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