Tuesday, November 3, 2009

The Big Reveal

Before I get started this evening, I want to thank you all so very much for the support that you have shown me in the last 24 hours. You have all made me feel absolutely amazing. I am in shock when I look at the counter & see that we have hit almost 2000 visits already. Praise God! While I am ecstatic by the support & growth, I am saddened by the amount of marriages that are in need. Please do not hesitate to email me if you need to speak one on one. I truly mean that. Your marriage & family is important to me & I want to help in any way that I can. Aimee@TeamFreemanProperties.com.

One of my goals for this blog is to get you all involved & make it interactive. You might say that it can be the largest small group in the world. I am only one person & there are thousands of you. I really need the help of each of you to reach the masses. So now that most of you have completed the day one challenge, please send in a comment about how your husband received you. The more of us that share, the more that we will inspire other wives to make a change in their marriages & families. Please take a moment to do this.

I understand that last night's challenge may have been very easy for some of you & I am proud of you for doing it, even though it may not have felt challenging. However, I want you to keep in mind the husband & wife who are hardly even speaking. The marriage that is completely broken & on it's last leg. For those wives to be able to meet their husbands at the door, that is HUGE. When Adam was still in our home but preparing to move out, meeting him at the door would have felt extremely uncomfortable because I was too worried about how he felt about me and if he even wanted me to do such a kind gesture.

When I spoke to Lisa on the phone that first time, she warned me that what she was about to tell me would feel very unnatural & would go against every fiber of my being. What she told me was that she felt the same exact fear of rejection or feeling uncomfortable when she heard what challenges she had to perform in the book, but it worked for her & for her marriage. Lisa asked me if I could trust her & follow what she was teaching me. Since I had tried every thing else unsuccessfully & because it worked for her marriage, I happily agreed.

I vividly remember the day that I listened to the CD that came with my books. The kids were outside playing & I got on the computer because I couldn't wait until they went to bed. I told you that I am not good with patience, so when I saw that there was a CD & two books, it was easy to choose which one I would use first. LOL I took a notebook & a pen with me so that I could take notes. I remember thinking about how easy these principles seemed to me. Even though Adam was already gone, 3 1/2 hours away, & finished with our relationship, I felt that I had a great shot at turning things around. I was pumped up! I wanted to hear more so I immediately started reading the first book.

I know that you all are very anxious to find out what this book series is & how you can get it. I suppose that I will not keep you in suspense any longer. :) The series is titled, "Motivating Your Man God's Way." It is written by Dr. Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs.

You can visit the main website at http://www.love&respect.com/ to purchase the series. You can find the link on my main page in the Favorite Links section. There are other books on the website that we will be digging into later. By the end of the week I will have all of Dr. Emerson's books! I have been watching for my UPS guy daily. The two books & the CD are sold as a set for just $24! I know that money is tight for many of us right now, but I promise you that this will be the best $24 that you will ever spend, especially if you think about how much a marriage counselor or getting a divorce will cost. This series is indisputably priceless. If you are as impatient as I am & you feel that you don't have time on your side, I would also recommend getting the 5 session conference download. It is $40 instead of $50 if you buy each session separately. This is something that you don't have to wait on in the mail. It is accessible immediately. The good news is that the shipment came much faster than I expected. I think I had them in 5-6 days.

I listened to the CD titled, "The Crazy Cycle" on my own first. Once I put the principles into practice & Adam agreed to work on our marriage as well, we listened to it again together. The information got Adam just as pumped up as it did for me. He wanted to hear more right then & there. We jumped in full force & started listening to the downloads. They are each a little over an hour, so we do it together as our quality time. We don't need to watch TV or play Bejeweled every single night. (LOL)

Look at it this way, you went to school for many years and worked very hard at getting an education to become a more intelligent person and for a better financial future. Or, you work very hard every single day at your job to increase your family's financial security, then why can't you spend an hour or two every day or every other day to strengthen the relationship with the one you plan to live with for the rest of your life. That means, after retirement from your job and when you don't need your education to go play BINGO down at the Moose Lodge.

One of the biggest things Adam would say during our separation is that we have a lot of work to do. He would say that he had a lot of work, I had a lot of work & we have a lot of work together as a couple. This made a happy & satisfying life seem so far away. He felt that it was "time" that was important & that you couldn't be "fixed" overnight. Adam's opinion has changed completely. These principles are so basic & so simple to follow that it really doesn't matter if you have been married for one year or for thirty. It doesn't matter how much hurt & pain are buried in your core. You CAN change, he CAN change, & your marriage can be more than you EVER dreamed possible. Can you trust me on this?

Starting tomorrow night, I will get more into the teachings of the book series. Tonight there will be a lesson for you to do on your husband just as there was last night. However, I have a few additional things that I would like you to do for homework.

1. When you are finished reading this post tonight, please click on the comment section & give us your testimony from last night. It may help motivate another wife to accept the challenge & will push another family onto the road of being repaired.

2. Find an accountability partner. We all know someone that could use this information. Give them the best gift that you could ever give them. Call them up or email them, whichever you prefer. Get them involved & agree to do this together. Support each other. As I mentioned earlier, this information goes against everything that you were ever taught. You will need at least one person who will agree to trust with you & keep you motivated. I know that my friends (that weren't following along with the books or the CD) thought I was crazy at times because of the challenges that I accepted in order to fix my marriage while maintaining hope during our separation. They are so thankful now that I stuck with it & I am happier than I have ever been.

3. I would like for everyone to post a comment with their favorite Bible scripture that pertains to marriage & relationships & why it means so much to you. If you don't know one that is okay. You will certainly have a great list of all of the best after tonight. For some, reading the Bible is very scary because the fear of misinterpretation, so we will just have to create a short list of everyone's favorites & start there. Periodically, I will choose one & we will discuss it at length through the blog.

4. This 14 day period is not a time for you to get your husband to open up & discuss past issues. We are actually trying to avoid that. You want to show him that you are changing. Remember, he may not be used to your new behavior & he may actually say something negative. You want to avoid confrontation at all cost. I told you this would be unnatural. In addition to the daily lesson, try not complaining to him about anything. If you need to complain, call your accountability partner. She may want to vent too. :)

Lesson #2 - Greet your husband & give him a hug. Let him know again that you missed him or were thinking about him today. Again, this is secondary to what you are really feeling. Just do it. If he says something like, "Wow, two days in a row. Do you want money or something"? Ignore it. He is saying this to you because he is noticing your actions & they feel good to him. What may feel like sarcasm to you is playful bantering to him. After you hug him, leave the room. Don't allow for a conversation about your new behavior. This isn't a game, we are just trying to avoid getting into a discussion of unresolved issues that you are not equipped to handle just yet.

That is all for tonight ladies. Let's pray.

"Lord, thank you for bringing this information about how to motivate my man, Your way. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to work on my marriage & to save my family from the irreversible pain of divorce. Lord, please forgive me for not doing these lessons as much as I should have in the past. Please give me the strength & courage to complete tonight's lesson, share my results with the group to help others and to continue working hard every day to complete the upcoming lessons. Lord, please soften my heart & the heart of my husband. Please allow my husband to see the changes that I am making for us & for him. Father, please hold my hand & do not let go. I can't do this by myself. I need You. Amen."



emily said...

Thanks for sharing your heart for marriage! I am looking forward to following your posts and joining you on your adventures!

Laura said...

My marriage isn't in trouble, yet, but when I read the fact that 70% of second marriages fail (this is my first marriage, my husband's second) I wanted to make sure I put in the work to make sure it doesn't get to that point, if that makes sense.

I'm also not a huge religious person. I wouldn't claim to be one religion or another. I believe in God, but I don't go to church or anything like that. Anyone, my favorite passage from the bible goes something like: "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

This can deal with marriage, or life in general. I believe Adam has spoken before, and I think it's fitting, about how you don't always want to do what God wants you to do. In your case, maybe Adam thought it would be easier on both of you if he just left. You all would get over it eventually, and move on, right? But obviously, God wanted you to work it out, as hard as it can be. Am I making sense? I just love that passage. It was given to me on a bookmark in a time in my life when I was in a very dark place, and it really just made me believe that I needed to let go and let God show me what He wanted from me.

April said...

I am just starting tonight, so I am a little behind on the lessons. Instead of always being a step behind, I decided I would just start tonight. I've only been married a little over two years and while I don't think my marriage is in trouble, trying to improve it, can't hurt! We are just 26 & 28 and have a lot to learn!!! So, I greeted my hubby with a big hug and told him how much I missed him today and I was so excited to see how responsive he was. I got three or four hugs back and the smile on his face was priceless!!! I think this especially helps because I am stay at home mom and think my husband needs to know how appreciated he is! I am really looking forward to doing this with you all!!! Good Luck!!!

MommyIvy said...

I have been married for almost 4 yrs. I am 22 and my hubby is 28. We have been having some issues. Its not in major jeapordy yet, but it is heading in that direction. Thanks for this blog.

Colton's Journey said...

Hello there, I have been following Kayleigh's blog for a bit now and love this one too. I'm a mom of a disabled little one and its effected my marriage. Almost 5 years now we've been married with two kids 3 1/2 and 19 mos. My husband works swing shift as a cop. It not easy being a single parent two weeks of the month. I will try greeting him tom. morning as you said in day #1 and 2. I like Laura's verses...thats a great one- Thanks Laura for sharing. When life throws me curve balls I often wonder why God continues to throw them at me...and when will he give me time to enjoy the positive progress little man is making...i know he has a plan!

Jolene said...

Hi! Thank you for the reminder of what I need to be doing to build up my husband, and strengthen my marriage. My hubby didn't really notice a difference because I usually greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss, but your reminder put it in the forefront of my mind how important thi is.

Lonestar Mommy said...

Hey! I am 22 and have been married for 3 years. We have 2 daughters together , ages 3 and 1. We have fallen into a "routine" and it seems like we are losing the closeness we once had. I would like to stop the spiral we are in which causes constant arguments, and is pulling us apart. So thanks for this encouragment! My husband was so happy that I greeted him at the door. He later told me Thank you for coming to the door, and that it made his day better. Thank you for doing this and being an encouragement to us all.

Anonymous said...

hi I want to thank you for the posts My husband and i have been married for 17 years and have been though our trails as well the most recent one is he was addicted to drugs and went to Teen challenge for a year and there are day where i find it hard to trust but i have too been doing the love dare and now the 14 day challenge and i see a small change in him and myself we are talking more.
thank you so much and God bless you

Kayla said...

Well I tried the first challenge and it was actually pretty easy for me. I greeted my husband at the door and he was reading something so I don't think he noticed my kind jesture. But even if he didn't notice, I knew that God honored my obedience, because I was in a particularly good mood and we didn't get into any arguments tonite miraculously. God is already at work. To any wife who is on the fence about whether to do this or not, I urge you to do it, after day one, God is already at work and its not too late for you to join! Thanks for the blog, Aimee. I feel so inspired by your posts.

Jessica Montgomery said...

I just wanted to congratulate you on starting this Marriage Ministry. I can sense your passion about this topic through your words.
Not sure what your final intentions are, but as long as you continue to keep paid advertisements off your site, and don't include some sort of PayPal donate button, I will continue to support you and follow your site.

I will feel more comfortable recommending your site to my bible study group at church if you keep your intentions true.
Once you try to profit off your site, it loses its integrity and goals. I hope you understand how that comes across in blogland to your readers. Please remain true to your goals and keep your site ad free and profit free. You are a lovely woman.

Beautiful Intellectual said...

I couldn't meet him at the door last night because we had to do the food shopping after work, but I had gotten there early so it was all done and all he had to do was chose a pudding and a dvd (the two bit of food shopping he really doesn't mind doing at all) and I think he really appreciated not having to trawl all the aisles.

And I still gave him a hug when he got there, right in the middle of the freezer aisle, right in the middle of all the other people who were shopping after work and grumpy. Some were envious; others clearly thought I was mad. But he appreciated it, and that's all that matters.

Our bible verse is Genesis 2v23 - "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man." He calls me his spare rib - I am nothing without him, and he is incomplete without me.

I want this blog to help make me the best wife I can be to him

Saminda said...

WEll, my husband and I met up in town last night after a long work day apart - so I was challenged to greet him with a big hug and kiss, in public. :) I did it! And I could tell he liked it. :)

Cristi said...

My husband beat me home but I greeted him as soon as I came in and he was pleased. My scripture is "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing." Proverbs 18:22 I want that to be completely true of me for my husband. Thanks for the encouragement. On with tonights lesson. :)

Amy H. said...

My marriage is not in danger of ending, but has become very "routine" and too comfortable after almost 14 years. My husband is a much more affectionate person, so I am the one who needs to make more of a change in that area.
That being said, I greeted my husband at the door with a hug and kiss....told him how much i missed him. I looked up at him and he had tears in his eyes. Come to find out, his day had been particularly stressful so he truly needed to be hugged and appreciated. He said he felt so much better after letting the tears go. For a man who typically bottles up all of the stress, he was able to let it all go for a change.
Thanks Aimee for leading this group. I intend to stick with you through this journey. Know that God is definetly working through you in my life. I would never have known what my husband needed so desperately last night if you had not come into our lives! God Bless and keep up the great work!

Becky said...

OK I hope this is what you're looking for, I'll start with my very favourite. I think it applies to everyone, Christian or not;

'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.' 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

And here are some others I like (sorry for any errors, I have to type them because I can't seem to copy them into the box...)

'and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.' Mark 10:8-9

'Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.' Colossians 3:13

'May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.' Romans 15:5-7

I always would reccomend the following passages that are too long to type out;

1 Corinthians 7 (all of it, particularly 12-14)
Ephesians 5:21-33

Thanks again for this, I can tell I'm going to enjoy it. I can't follow it exactly because I don't see my partner every day but I can learn from it as we go along, and stretch the challenges out for when I do see him : )

Anonymous said...

Hi Aimee - Thanks for starting this Ministry. I am a follower of Kayleigh's story. My husband and I just celebrated our 3rd anniversary. We have a 22 month old baby who was born 3 months early and spent the first year of his life in hospital. He is home now but has ongoing issues. It has affected our marriage in SO many ways. I am 36 and my husband is 40 - so it helps that we are a bit older. I wouldn't say our marriage is in trouble, life is just so hard right now. So, I look forward to your blogs and how they may help us find happiness together.

Beckie & Trevor Muirhead said...

My husband & I have been married for 6 years and looking back, I'm surprised we made it past year one. God has brought us a long way and our marriage is actually stronger now than ever. However, I believe with my whole heart that marriage takes work every day in order for it to be successful and that's why I'm here. I've been reading Kayleigh's blog for quite some time and was really excited to see that you've started this Bible and marriage study, Aimee!
Anyway, one thing I've noticed about our marriage is that we tend to treat strangers with more courtesy than we treat each other. As a child, my parents encouraged me to learn 2 Peter 3:8-12, and since it's still hidden in my heart, I've learned to apply it to my marriage... "Finally, 'Muirheads', live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, loving, compassionate, and humble. Do not repay evil for evil or insult for insult but give a blessing instead because you were called so that you may inherit a blessing." You get the point....
Thanks again Aimee. I'm excited to work hard at motivating my man God's way and to continue to better my marriage.

Terri said...

Thank you, Aimee, for doing this. I SO need it and it is in perfect time. I downloaded all 5 of the suggested sessions and plan to order the books. I sure hope I have the opportunity to share this experience with my husband.

Testimony: Well, right now my husband is not here. He left 2 weeks ago and I am overwhelmed with sadness, responsibility and trying to care for my daughter and our 11 month old baby girl. Becuase he is not here, it is difficult to complete the tasks but I am trying to do what I can do, when I can do. I think God gave us a little push this morning when my car wouldn't start and we were stranded at home. He came over and I was able to complete some of the tasks. I made an extra pot of coffee (his favorite) so that it would be ready for him. We had his favorite dinner last night (he was invited but declined) so I offered the leftovers so that he could enjoy it for lunch (declined again but ONLY because he didn't have his cooler), and I sent him on his way with some of his favorite snacks (including brownies- a favorite.) I keep on trying- even though I am not getting anything in return.

My favorite bible scripture relating to love is:

ALL of Corinthians 13: but it can be summed up by verse 13... So these three things continue forever: faith, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is love.

Becky said...

I don't know if I'm going to be able to order this book... It's US delivery and there is a number to call to ask about international delivery but I can't call an international number without the book ending up costing me a fortune! I have asked about it in the feedback section, we'll see what happens. Do you think I can just get the love & respect book instead (I can get that in the UK) or is this one def better?

pinksarahh said...

I had EVERY intention of following thru with Day 1, and then hubby was late getting home and we were late to ball game, so we rushed out...I am going to try again today. I am glad you are doing this.

Tiffani said...

Aimee and everyone in our new blog, I am glad to see this opportunity come about at an opportune time! I have been married for 3 years to my husband. We had 23 weeker preemie twins (our first children) almost 18 months ago. We have our daughter who is doing well but our son is in heaven with our Lord. I am a Christian and my husband is not, yet he is working on his relationship with God after our experiences with our children and by seeing there are other people out there just like him coming to know God later in life. Our marriage has suffered from the stress, trauma, grief and life in the NICU for 6.5 months. WE argue quite often and let our feelings get in the way. I know at this point we both want to save our marriage and be parents to our little miracle. This blog is an answered prayer to getting us on that track! Look forward to getting to know you all. Aimee thank you for doing this! I know you have been through sooooo much this past year as well! Yesterday's activity went well! :D Ready or the next! Thank you! Tiffani

Kaci said...

Hey!! I'm 22 and my husband is soon to be 24 on the 16th. We've been married for 4 and have a 3 1/2 yr old that was born with a Congential Heart Defect (Aortic Stenosis)..We've had our moments in our marriage where it hasn't been the greatest but we always manage to work it out.We aren't as close as we were when we were dating so this is worth a try. :)..greeting him at the door wasn't out of the ordinary,but you can tell he enjoys it..I'm a stay at home mom as well so any little apprecaition goes a long ways...Thank you Aimee for doing this. Hopefully it will help us as well has other families. Take care and May God bless each and everyone of you!

With love from the ♥,
Kaci Insall

Moya said...

My favourite Bible scripture for my marriage is St. Matthew 19 verse 6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." It's my fave because about 3 months into our now going on 11 month marriage I found out that another woman was after my husband & he was not doing anything to stop it. It was a very devastating time for me & our marriage and God really did alot of work then & is still doing now to keep us together. I strongly believe no man or woman can ever have the authority to destroy my marriage. That authority alone lies with God and He's made it clear that He wants us together.
I had started meeting my husband at the door coincidentally last week and I love when he hugs & kisses me back & he says I make him feel special.

Michele said...

Thank you for sharing your life with me and thank you to everyone else for sharing as I so need all the help I can get each and every day. This is really hard for me as I am in such a state of anger and frustration in my marriage and ready to call it quits and I am sure my husband has had it with me as well.

However as hard as it was and as angry as I am I was able to hug him (something I haven' been able to do for a bit) and he hugged back. So for today I ask for the strength to be able to hug again and put aside my anger and frustration and embark on a new journey and do what I can to save my marriage of 11 yrs.

Thanks again I look forward to tonights post..

Anonymous said...

Hey. I am so thankful I found this blog. My husband and I will soon be married 4 years. We have a beautiful 14 month old daughter. However, we have been having a lot of issues here lately and we have even talked about divorcing. This is not what either of us wants but the issues we are having do not seem to have a clear solution. We are at a stand still in our marriage and it feels pretty much dead. Just please keep us in your prayers and thank you for this ministry.

Jennifer said...

I have been greeting my husband at the door or very shortly after and letting him know I missed him and that I love him for the past 2-3 months and I do believe it makes a huge difference. When I didn't take those 2-3 minutes to show him that I care(he does it for me as well), it seems that the kids just take over and we never got the opportunity to do it. We are in a small couples group and reading the bbok by Smaelley called "Making Love Last Forever" (we also did a group on his book From Anger to Intimacy) and I think that this book you are recommending will be great for me to do along with the other book. Change MUST start within and be your only goal. We can't change our spouses and we shouldn't try. Our goal should be to be the best we God through God's word. My husband and I also seperated and through that I reconnected with a great friend who is also a Christian and she has been amazing through everything. She has become my accountability partner and I am thankful that she is really good at holding me to what I need to do.
You are doing a great thing Aimee. I appreciate your dedication to spreading God's plan for our marriages. We forget sometimes that God's standards are so different than those of the world.

Coach's Wife said...

Hi Aimee--thank you so much for doing this blog. I can also tell through your words that your heart is completely in this and your intentions are true. My husband and I have been married 2 years next month. I have a daughter from a previous marriage and we have a 16 month old together. Our relationship and marriage was a whirlwind I guess you could say. We knew from our first date we wanted to spend our lives together and were married 8 months after our first date! We are completely in love, but like any other couple we struggle. We don't communicate real well. He wants to act like nothing is wrong and hope it goes away and I want to discuss and dissect every little thing! We definately need to meet in the middle on this one. I am also struggling with his mother. Greg was in a tragic car accident 10 years ago and was in a coma for almost 4 weeks. They thought he was not going to make it. So I can see where his mother is attached to him. But I am not incredibly close with my mother so I have a hard time dealing with this. There seems to be no boundaries as far as she is concerned, and there are times she overrides me as a mother. Greg refuses to defend me or take my side because he doesn't want to upset his mother. I think he should be doing anything he can to make sure I"M happy, and I'm not trying to make him take sides. Anyway, didn't mean to ramble! My point is that I too need help becoming a better wife and want to get my marriage back on track before it's too late. I can't say thank you enough or stress that I found this blog at the perfect time. I have already told my friend Tara about it, as she is having some of the same issues as myself. I will be sending her the link so she can read through your posts and hopefully they can help her as well.

My favorite verse is 1 Corinthians. "Love is patient, Love is kind." Someone already posted it and I dont have anything here with me to post the whole thing. I read that verse to Greg after one of our first dates and it has just become something that makes me think of him and our marriage. It has so many simple statements, yet I feel they are some of the most true.

I'm happy for you and Adam and grateful God is moving in such an amazing way in your lives and marriages. Allyson and Brandon will be so appreciative of their parents working so hard to make a good and happy life for them. I also have a feeling you have a perfect little angel at work on your hearts and your marriage! :)

Sarah in OK

Brandy said...

Thanks so much for doing this! It could not have come at a better time for my family. I am so excited to get to hear from you and Adam again. I truly missed you guys while yall were MIA from blogland....lol

Back to my story....My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years and we have 2 year old twin boys that consume most of our time and the rest of our time is consumed by working full time and going to school. This leaves little time for us, so we fall into the routine and start over each morning. That has put alot of strain on our marriage and even the way we feel about each other. Monday night we had a strained conversation about these things and went to bed not speaking. I read this blog yesterday morning and was fully prepared to embark upon this journey to fix things. When I arrived home yesterday, there was a dozen red roses, beautiful card, a bottle of wine and a movie sitting on the table. He had gotten my mom to keep the boys and we had what he called a "simpler times" night. It was amazing. When you remove all of the stresses out of your life (if even just for an hour or two) you find the person and things you fell in love with. I am definitely going to follow and keep my marriage in tact and thriving.

Stephanie Cortez said...

Thank you for being so open about your marriage. Mine was in a lot of trouble a couple of years ago. We have gotten past that but it still seems like we can improve more. I did the exercise yesterday and also just tried to be in a good mood when he got home. After about 10 minutes he said, "Why are you so happy? Do you want something?" I said, "No" and just continued doing what I was doing. I am hoping that this can fix me and get us closer. I know that some of the problems in our marriage is me. So I am excited to do this! Stephanie

Blessed said...

I like that because I used to always greet my husband at the door until we had our daughter. I was to tired or to busy to get up...so last night he was so happy to have me back at the door to welcome him home!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi Aimee- Been 'with you' since the days of the BabyCenter boards. What an interesting endeavor you are taking on. I'm so happy I've kept up with Kayleigh's site so that I could find this blog.

Married for 6 years and 2 kids later... marraige is going 'fine'...but, I've been trying to focus on becoming a better wife, so this is a perfect place to start.

My husband is very kind, loving and affectionate. I find myself too busy with taking care of the kids, cooking, cleaning and going to work to REALLY pay attention to him. I know I can do better.

I've found that lately, I'm running my life like a business and not enjoying the ride...

I'm so happy that you and Adam have revamped your marraige. You've been an inspiration to so many...

Looking forward to completing all of the 'challenges'!


Becky said...

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 8 and we have a 7 month old son together. As others have said, our marriage is good but the stresses of everyday life have a way of sneaking in and while we don't often fight, we do complain to each other a lot about outside issues and that's what I want to change. With a baby, we don't have a lot of "us" time but I am hoping that together with you and the other ladies on this blog, I can find ways to show my husband just how much he means to me as a husband and a man, not just as a father......

I was not able to meet him at the door last night, but it is something that I try to do. He gets home at various times with his OR schedule so last night I happened to be feeding the baby just as he walked in....but, tonight is another night and I'm planning on greeting him with a great big hug and I missed you!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this new blog...it's a wonderful idea and I'm looking forward to more "lessons"!

I just wanted to mention that encouraging us to go out and buy the books/CD and then a conference series made me second guess the nature of this site. I started wondering if you were hired to promote this series. I continued reading your post and by the end realized that that was not the case. I think your enthusiasm for this book came across like a sales pitch for me. :)

Just a little heads up from my perspective.

Krissy said...

Thank you for sharing your experience w/ us.

My husband and I have been together for 10 years (next Month), married for 3, have a 7 yo and a 4 month old. I can't pinpoint what is "wrong" right now in my marriage but I am not happy and willing to try this.

We kiss everytime someone is leaving or returns home, but it's so routine I don't think it has much meaning to it. My husband has actually pointed out to me a few times here and there where I have broken the routine lately (oops). Now he works from home but I will make an effort to start this somehow.

Sorry no inspiring scriptures to share.

Lisa said...

My main scriptures were Ephesians 3:20 "God can do more than I can think ask or imagine..." and Phil 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" I repeated them often and was determined to be respectful. Those scriptures along with several others were my lifeline! Ladies, listen to Aimee who, along with me, has seen this work in our marriages!! Praying for all of you!!! Watch the video testimonies on the Love & Respect website too!
Lisa Shea
Rise Above Ministry

johnsons said...

My husband didn't really notice I don't think. I will try again tonight though and hopefully get a better response. I am doing this from work, so I don't have a bible handy. I will post my scripture later. Have a great day!!

Christen said...

Aimee! I truly feel like the Lord helped me find your blog! This is incredible! Thank you so much!

I am 26, my husband is 29. Next Monday we will be celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary. Yes, I married young (18) so the fear of being another 'young-bride-getting- divorced' statistic scares me! I call our marriage the ultimate roller coaster ride. We have months of ups, then months of downs and this trend continues throughout the year(s). I am ready for some stability and to put our marriage in God's hands.
Last night, I was excited that I actually made it home before he did from work. I greeted him at the door with a huge hug and smile. Told him I loved him and was grateful for him. He did not know what to do. He smiled and asked me what I wanted. This took me back a little because I was just realizing that it wasn't something he was accustomed to. I see now how moody I had become throughout the years. It's not fair to bring work stresses home and take them out on him.

Mark 10:5-9
"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied.But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh.So they are no longer two, but one.Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

joyful02 said...

I greeted my husband at the door again on Tuesday, and he didn't seem to notice either, but maybe he did. He has been doing more at helping out. He did help me clean up our son's toys in the living room that night though.


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