tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post2359307901132558669..comments2023-07-05T09:31:00.709-04:00Comments on Women's Marriage Ministry: Why Am I Negative?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00617425607227159538noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-73172230121257270642009-12-17T17:26:25.830-05:002009-12-17T17:26:25.830-05:00Hi Aimee, thanks for taking the time to reply. Wha...Hi Aimee, thanks for taking the time to reply. What you are saying definatly makes sense. I just know that a lot of people don't think rationaly when they have been hurt.<br />I can't imagine how I would begin to forgive someone if they broke their wedding vows, but it has never happened so maybe that's why it's hard to understand for me. But like I said, I do believe in forgiveness, but I just hope you have forgiven yourself also.<br />You're welcome : ) I love reading your blog! It keeps things in perspective.<br />BeckyBeckynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-86790610819827646502009-12-16T23:36:02.953-05:002009-12-16T23:36:02.953-05:00I know in your posting you said you started a sepa...I know in your posting you said you started a separate forum about the ferility issues and it would be nice to see that kept separate from the marriage ministry forum. As someone who struggled with TRUE infertility for years I don't want to come to a blog that is supposed to be directed towards marriages to hear someone complaining because it's been 3 months and they've always gotten pregnant righ when they wanted to in the past. Sorry to come across as so "negative" but this is a "hot button" topic for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-51983834500527446112009-12-14T11:42:36.680-05:002009-12-14T11:42:36.680-05:00Thank you do much for this. It was needed. I am st...Thank you do much for this. It was needed. I am struggling with some trust issues myself. It is hard, but has been getting better.MommyIvyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08138273897085235441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-26315503043663809032009-12-14T11:16:56.273-05:002009-12-14T11:16:56.273-05:00Hey Becky. Yes, I know that many people have moral...Hey Becky. Yes, I know that many people have morals & they should know that cheating is wrong. I agree with that. However, we are all sinners & without God in our lives our temptations are even stronger. We do things that are wrong every day. People smoke, drink, use profanity, etc. etc. However, once we have God in our lives we become more aware that ALL of those things are sin & we have a greater strength to fight those temptations. <br /><br />I am not making excuses for Adam at all. What he did was wrong & horrible. It took me a long time to forgive. I just wish that I had God in my life sooner because I suspect the pain would have hurt a lot less. I wouldn't have wasted as much time as I did dwelling on it. <br /><br />I hope this helps. No offense taken. Thank you so much for following along.<br /><br />AimeeAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00617425607227159538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-68848697906009089032009-12-13T02:15:10.007-05:002009-12-13T02:15:10.007-05:00Your attitude/faith is terrific. When Mr.4444 and ...Your attitude/faith is terrific. When Mr.4444 and I started planning our marriage, we agreed that we owed it to each other to meet each other's needs (because we believe that people cheat when some need is not being met.) We committed to letting each other know (even though it might be awkward or uncomfortable) to letting each other know if we ever felt like a need was not being met. In March, we'll be married 20 years, and we have always held to our agreement. Faith is important, but I believe we also have to take responsibility for our happiness and say something if we're feeling drawn to sin; we are partners and need to have each other's back. I'm happy for you and your husband, that you love and support each other and have a strong faith; the two together will keep you strong :)Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-73792175142291876672009-12-12T17:19:32.607-05:002009-12-12T17:19:32.607-05:00Your cycles are probably off because of your thyro...Your cycles are probably off because of your thyroid issues. I was diagnosed with Grave's Disease not long after you were and it has really affected my cycles. I can make it harder to get pregnant and to keep the baby. Just wondering if you asked your endo about this yet? Maybe they need to check your thyroid levels and possibly adjust your meds.<br /><br />Hope you get pregnant soon and keep the baby and have the baby healthy.momof4beautifulbeautieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009207874809189458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-49687492467816219052009-12-12T15:29:01.893-05:002009-12-12T15:29:01.893-05:00Aww... I'm sorry about the witch showing up......Aww... I'm sorry about the witch showing up... Mine is almost a week late, had a BFN this morning. So why is she late? Arrgghh!!! I'll join you on the Frog Blog, because I need to do all the weight loss, work out, blah blah blah... :-)<br /><br />And your and Adam's honesty is very humbling. Thank you again!Cecilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03911726429077194109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-83901646613797066992009-12-12T11:57:35.572-05:002009-12-12T11:57:35.572-05:00Aimee,
I am sending prayers your way during your...Aimee, <br /><br />I am sending prayers your way during your TTC journey. It took us almost four years to conceive our precious daughter. We are now trying for baby #2 and the struggles are harder this go around :( <br /><br />You are truly an inspiration, hon! And I thank God that I have the opportunity to be able to follow your minstry.Christenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08331306538258523194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-54624633103980159452009-12-12T08:28:07.860-05:002009-12-12T08:28:07.860-05:00Hi Aimee, I hope you don't take this as a crit...Hi Aimee, I hope you don't take this as a critisism but there is something I'd like to talk/ask about. The lady you spoke about, and Adam for that matter, DID know what they were doing was wrong. You do NOT have to be a Christian to know better than to cheat on your girlfriend, or to sleep with someone elses boyfriend. These are common morals that we should have regardless of whether we are Christian or not. I'm Christian, and my boyfriend isn't, but we have quite similar morals which comforts me, because he doesn't realise that the way we think isn't really that much different. He doesn't have God, but he does have morals. Does that make sense? And the morlas that he has were not found through God (unfortunatly). Not many people, religious or otherwise, think that it's OK to be unfaithful. And even the ones that are unfaithful know that they are in the wrong, they just do it anyway. (that's my first point) Seems you guys have it sorted now, and that's great. But it also seems like you're making too many excuses for Adams past behaviour, which in my book is totally out of order, and taking too much of the blame onto yourself. The way you acted maybe wasn't right, but it was in response to something Adam had already done. He was the reason that even happened in the first place, you shouldn't lose sight of that. These things can't be forgiven overnight. It took you a while, and for most people it does. I understand how important it is to move onto a place where there is no blame anymore. There should be no blame for you either!! You can't forgive his wrongdoings and not forgive yourself aswell.<br />Which brings me onto my second point... I don't have any experience, thank God, with this situation. It might be something you're coming to in a later post, but how SHOULD a partner deal with unfaithfulness? By doing these challenges, I don't think that's enough when your relationship is at that stage, there needs to be a better way of dealing with the hurt. You can't just not mention it and it'll go away. You can't show respect to someone that you have no respect for until they apologise for their actions, can you? Otherwise you're living a lie, and I don't think that's how God wants us to live. If you're showing respect you don't feel in the mean time for minor issues that will resolve themselves in your head, that's one way. But unfaithfulness needs to be resovled openly, it can't be done from one side alone. I may be totally wrong, let me know, I don't mind being led to understand something.<br />I hope again that you don't take this as a critisism, because I love your blog and for me it's been really great. For me it's about trying to let God into my relationship, even if my boyfriend isn't up for it. And that's not by forcing it on him, it's purely through the way I am acting. So thank you : )<br />Sorry that this is badly written, and my spelling is probably atrocious, but I'm just typing quickly and not reading back!<br />BeckyBeckynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-8381697348801314222009-12-12T00:47:56.628-05:002009-12-12T00:47:56.628-05:00I do understand when you get that neg test. It'...I do understand when you get that neg test. It's sucks I have no kids and want one really bad. I pray and I don't understand why we have not been blessed with one. I sit and cry thinking what our life would be like to have a child. I guess that it will happen the way that it suppose to. I know that my husband says he is fine if we dont have any but he is just saying that to help me through my tuff time. He would love to have a child and I really hope that one day I will be able to give that to him and also my self. I wish that someone would just see what kind of people we are and give there baby to us to love. We have been through so muchin the last 13 years and I know we to will make it through this but it's very hard. I have been on meds and that does not work I dont have a period unless on meds but he doctors say that I'm ok I just dont ovulate. Not sure what else we can do. We are hoping to adopt a child. But then I sit and think about who would chose us we are not rich we dont go to church. I know that we are good people and would give our shirts off our back for anyone but is that good enough? Why is it that we have not been blessed with a child? What can we do different? Any way Im sorry hope that you have a great weekend.Charolettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349016159305324036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-36316853531800291782009-12-11T23:38:39.810-05:002009-12-11T23:38:39.810-05:00Aimee -
I have followed your blog for Kayleigh, a...Aimee -<br /><br />I have followed your blog for Kayleigh, and am now thrilled to be following your life and advice over here. My husband and I are considering trying for our second child, but I am scared to death. My son, who is now 17 months old, was premature, and I am afraid to go down that road again. He is relatively healthy now, though developmentally behind. (I am hoping that through therapy and intervention he will catch up.) Do you know what caused Kayleigh's prematurity? As a fellow preemie mom, I am hoping you can offer some advice and support, and let me know how you are dealing with the possibility of another premature delivery. Thank you so much! God bless you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-61168910579832280102009-12-11T21:41:03.373-05:002009-12-11T21:41:03.373-05:00aimee i love seeing how God is working in your lif...aimee i love seeing how God is working in your life and how you are touching so many people! what a blessing you are to so many and thank you for sharing and being so open. you do such a great job of expressing feelings we all have. i'll be praying for a "positive" next month :-)Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03217241660598076311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-31363742911413341342009-12-11T21:35:27.086-05:002009-12-11T21:35:27.086-05:00i so know that disappointed feeling. i know he has...i so know that disappointed feeling. i know he has a plan i just wish i could peek at the calendar.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14528097262965619732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-66793773956387539952009-12-11T16:15:26.668-05:002009-12-11T16:15:26.668-05:00Again I am in awe of your positive spirit and atti...Again I am in awe of your positive spirit and attitude with everything you have faced. To “chat” with a woman who was your friend that fooled around with your husband amazes me. You are such an inspiration, more and more everyday I want to find that peace and love you have in your relationship with Christ, Life much be must sweeter now.Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-4268937604521501062009-12-11T16:05:30.207-05:002009-12-11T16:05:30.207-05:00Thanks for your honesty Aimee. Just wanted to sha...Thanks for your honesty Aimee. Just wanted to share with you that I am 37 years old and I have three children, all three and a half years apart. I know it has to be frustrating for you, but what a miracle to get pregnant the first try all three times! It usually took us between 4-6 months and when we finally relaxed and just "stopped trying so hard" it happened for us. Actually, the last one was a big surprise!! Anyway, as I have gotten older, my cycles are really wierd too. I used to be 28 days on the dot apart and now it's like every three weeks ( I think I'm getting the short end of the deal here). Anyway, I just wanted to say hang in there and it will happen when it's supposed to.mommyof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/11174566324965888891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-22895412440670914732009-12-11T14:45:38.296-05:002009-12-11T14:45:38.296-05:00Just wondering...could it be possible that your cy...Just wondering...could it be possible that your cycle is off because you ARE pregnant?? Did you take the test anyway??? Just a thought...<br />Anywho, beautful job in your new endeavors with this blog. My husband is my best friend and the person I am meant to spend the rest of my life with, but I genuinely believe that everyone can benefit from your blog...even those with good relationships. Sometimes, as women, we let our natual worrying, jealous selves come to surface. I know I do. Sometimes I just need you to give me a reality check ;) Keep up the great work! I know you are saving marriages, and for that you should be proud. <br />-Gemma<br />ps...missing Kayleigh, but I'm sure she's looking down, proud on her Mama as well!gem01https://www.blogger.com/profile/16886274833591080206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-5902004200956438752009-12-11T14:39:52.330-05:002009-12-11T14:39:52.330-05:00I appreciate your transparency in both of your liv...I appreciate your transparency in both of your lives. In some blogs you wonder if they are truly being themselves. You read about all the good, and what seems like fairy-tale lives and you wonder... geez are these people for real. <br /><br />I am thankful for real believers, to read and know about!<br /><br />May our Lord Jesus continue to bless and guide your words!<br /><br />Angie<br />www.helpmeettosam.blogspot.comGammySelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18283597852882959403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-24330209175615155752009-12-11T14:39:32.930-05:002009-12-11T14:39:32.930-05:00I appreciate your transparency in both of your liv...I appreciate your transparency in both of your lives. In some blogs you wonder if they are truly being themselves. You read about all the good, and what seems like fairy-tale lives and you wonder... geez are these people for real. <br /><br />I am thankful for real believers, to read and know about!<br /><br />May our Lord Jesus continue to bless and guide your words!<br /><br />Angie<br />www.helpmeettosam.blogspot.comGammySelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18283597852882959403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-345363153684300038.post-18435232022141502902009-12-11T14:12:13.483-05:002009-12-11T14:12:13.483-05:00Wow, I can't imagine that kind of forgiveness!...Wow, I can't imagine that kind of forgiveness! I have a friend whose wife cheated on him, for at least the 2nd time, and he's willing to forgive her and stay together, and that just blows me away. What an example of the redemption of Christ's love. I'm so glad that you & Adam have been able to move past your past and be redeemed by Christ's love.<br /><br />As far as trying for a baby, I'm sorry. We waited 15 months for baby #1, so I know what you're going through. Then between kids I found this website - http://www.ovusoft.com/ - they have a product called Taking Charge of Your Fertility, where you learn about your fertility signs & chart them, and after I read that, we got pregnant within 2 months with baby #2. I hope it happens quickly for you!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702958291049563341noreply@blogger.com